As I’m tending to my garden today I got the strangest feeling of peace. Awareness they call it. It wasn’t just the joy of having my hands in the dirt though. My overgrown flowers I had left unkempt for a few months needed some serious care and pruning. As I’m cutting off the dark and discolored portions I had to go down even to the base of the root because some of the stems had become rotten to the core.
The beauty of my flowers and greenery that were still blossoming hit me in awe. Here they were still in all their glory- they were just being crowded out by the unhealthy growth and weeds. Cut after cut the natural shape of the bush reappeared and once done even though there was so much missing where the dead growth was the remaining healthy stems seemed to sit taller reaching up towards the sun now instead of being tangled down.
*Epiphany*
How TRUE is this for when we “prune” out unhealthy toxic relationships around us? We are no longer letting ourselves be held down once we make that difficult decision to cut ties. You may truly love that person and enjoy their company, but as Patty Smyth sang “Baby sometimes love just ain’t enough”. It may seem like an insurmountable harrowing job at first, but upon finishing the task an incredible weight can be lifted off your shoulders. Because now there is room for healthy and positive relationships (romantic or friendship) to open up and grow. .
I used to feel guilty to cut off certain people from being in my life, but I now realize that it is simply self-preservation. Giving yourself the same respect, love, and care that you are giving out to others. I had forgotten to nurture my poor flowers however I was able to nurse them back to life, and now I am determined to not ever again forget to do the same for myself!